Wouldn’t you rather say “TaDa! I am done!” at the end of the day rather than looking at an unfinished to-do list? If so, it’s time to delete, delegate, and shift your mindset.
Make a master to-do list with all your responsibilities. This might be a very long list, but that’s OK. The more you can add to the list the better. Then, start deleting! Draw a BIG fat line through anything that isn’t truly important; the busywork. Your to-do list will never go away if you keep focusing on nonproductive busywork.
After you’ve completely deleted the busywork it’s time to start delegating to-do list tasks that other people can do for you. Next to each one of your remaining responsibilities write the name of someone who could either help you or completely take over that responsibility. Get help from family members, friends or professionals you hire. Some people feel it’s a waste of money to hire someone else to do something that you could do yourself. I used to feel the same way until I shifted my mindset.
Personally, I used to feel guilty for spending money to get help with things I felt I should be doing myself. I used to clean the house, take care of all the bills, go to a job I didn’t love, take care of my daughter, go to college and mow the lawn.
I was overworked and overwhelmed, so I started to tell myself a new story: “I deserve help. I deserve an easier life. It’s a good thing to pay other people to help me do the things I hate and don’t have time for.” Life changing!
After deleting and delegating your tasks from your to-do list all that should remain are the tasks that you and only you can handle; going to the gym, your annual doctor exams and going to work are a few examples. Your list should be much shorter at this point. Now, you’re getting so close to having a TaDa list!
Now that your list is more manageable, make sure you add in the good stuff! It’s so great to have room for the things that make you a better, happier and healthier version of yourself: date nights, quiet time, walks, trips to the zoo, reading a great book, family time, vacations, spa day, hiking, whatever makes you happy. Don’t skip this step!
Most people hardly ever take the time to reevaluate their responsibilities on a consistent basis. Most people also never ask for help (yes, I’m talking to you). If you don’t ask for help, you will never get it. Downsize your overloaded to-do list and turn it into an easy-breezy, chilled out TaDa List! Life does not have to be overwhelming.
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